Healing Betrayal: Learning to Believe in Love Again

Love is an energy, an unshakable force that exists beyond human betrayal. It is infinite, untouched, and ever-flowing. But when someone we trust shatters that love, it does not feel infinite—it feels like it was an illusion all along. Betrayal has a way of making the strongest souls feel small, unworthy, and unprotected. It leaves behind a wound that goes deeper than the mind—it reaches the soul, altering the way love is perceived, trusted, and received. As a spiritual healer, I have seen how this pain lingers in the body, how it dims a person’s energy field, and how it creates walls that keep love out even when the heart longs for it. The journey of believing in love again is not just about time passing or meeting someone new. It is about cleansing the energy of betrayal, releasing the pain it left behind, and reconnecting with the truth that love itself never hurt you—only a person did.  

There is something I ask my clients when they come to me after being cheated on: ‘Have you ever cheated on your partner or thought of cheating?’ It is a question that makes most people uncomfortable. But let’s be honest—cheating is not just the obvious, physical act. That little flirt at the pub is cheating. Being with a girl over coffee while your partner is at home, sick, is cheating. Messaging someone whose messages you delete before seeing your partner is cheating. Betrayal does not begin with the final act—it begins the moment one chooses secrecy over honesty, temptation over integrity. And when it happens to you, when you are on the receiving end of that betrayal, it shifts something inside you. You start to question not just the person who hurt you but love itself.  

The Energy of Betrayal and How It Stays in the Body

Betrayal is not just an emotional experience; it is an energetic wound. The moment trust is broken, the body reacts. The heart tightens, the stomach knots, and an unshakable heaviness settles in the chest. The nervous system goes into survival mode, making it difficult to feel safe. This is why, even long after the betrayal, the effects remain—because the body remembers.  

When I did a healing session once, I asked the lady to place her hand over her heart and asked her to breathe into it. She had been cheated on by a man she had loved for years, and despite all the time that had passed, she still could not bring herself to trust anyone again. As she focused on her heart, she felt nothing but numbness. She had blocked herself off from love, not just romantic love but all forms of love. Her energy had hardened, her aura had contracted, and her heart chakra was completely shut down. This is what betrayal does—it does not just break relationships; it breaks the flow of love within us.  

The energy of pain, if not released, turns into armour. It convinces you that you are protecting yourself, but in reality, you are imprisoning yourself. The walls you build to keep hurt out also keep love out. Healing is not about forgetting what happened or pretending it did not hurt. It is about allowing yourself to feel it, acknowledge where it still lives in your body, and then, piece by piece, release it.  

Once, I healed a young man who had been deeply wounded by betrayal. He carried the weight of his past like armor, believing it would protect him, but all it did was keep love out. Healing is not about instant belief—it is about gentle shifts. The more I allowed him to acknowledge his pain without becoming it, the lighter he felt. And that is the first step toward believing in love again: recognising that love did not betray him—only a person did.

Rebuilding Trust in Yourself Before Trusting Another  

The hardest part of being cheated on is not just the loss of trust in another—it is the loss of trust in yourself. You question your own judgment. ‘How did I not see it coming? Why didn’t I listen to my gut?’ You replay every moment, trying to find the point where you could have changed the outcome. But here is the truth—no amount of analysing the past will undo what happened. The only way forward is to rebuild trust within yourself.  

When I was working with a woman who had lost all belief in love, I asked her to close her eyes and remember a time when she ignored her intuition. She immediately recalled a moment when she sensed something was wrong but convinced herself she was overthinking. That is where her pain truly lay—not just in the betrayal but in her belief that she had failed herself.  

But here is what I told her: ‘You did not fail yourself. You loved someone fully, and that is not a mistake. The mistake was theirs, not yours.’ The healing process is not about being harder, colder, or more guarded. It is about becoming more attuned to yourself, honouring your intuition, and recognising that love, when real, does not require you to betray your own needs.  

Healing also means making peace with the fact that you may never get the answers you seek. Why did they do it? Did they ever love you? Were you not enough? These questions keep you tied to the past. When I did a guided meditation with a client once, I asked her to imagine placing all her unanswered questions into a box and floating it down a river. She hesitated. She wanted answers. But as she visualised letting go, she felt something shift. The weight of needing closure was holding her back more than the betrayal itself. Letting go of the need for an explanation is one of the most powerful steps toward trusting again.  

Shifting the Energy and Allowing Love to Flow Again

The moment you decide to heal, the energy begins to shift. At first, it is subtle. The pain is still there, but it does not define you. The past is still a memory, but it no longer dictates your future. Love stops feeling like something that needs to be feared and starts feeling like something that is still possible.  

There comes a moment when the weight of past hurt begins to lift, not because time has erased it, but because space has been made for something new. Love is never truly gone—it lingers beneath the pain, waiting to be uncovered. Believing in love again is not about forcing trust or rushing into something new to prove healing has happened. It is about allowing room for love to flow naturally, without fear, when the heart is ready to receive it once more.

Love is always present. It is in the sunrise, in the warmth of a friend’s embrace, in the stillness of a quiet morning. The more you attune yourself to the love that already surrounds you, the more your heart remembers how to receive it. And when you are ready—when your energy has shifted, when your wounds have softened, when your trust in yourself has been rebuilt—love will find its way back to you. Not because you need it to complete you, but because you have finally become whole again.  

So ask yourself, ‘Am I holding onto the betrayal more than I am holding onto the possibility of love?’ Because the moment you decide that love is still worth believing in, it will meet you there. And this time, it will be different. This time, it will not be love you have to question—it will be love that finally feels right.

Disclaimer:

I am an energy healer and spiritual guide with more than 12 years of experience and practice. Through my vision and ability to understand live energy patterns, I have developed a unique process to guide and heal people, helping them uncover the root cause of their suffering.  

While I work closely with individuals experiencing various medical conditions, I am not a certified medical professional. My healing is not intended to replace any medical treatment or diagnosis but to support and accelerate the recovery process.  

It is important to consult a qualified healthcare provider for any medical concerns. My guidance focuses on energy balance, emotional well-being, and spiritual growth, complementing conventional medical approaches for overall healing.

This blog is a small glimpse into my upcoming book, Moksha Diaries—a journey through healing, surrender, and the unseen forces that shape our lives. Each page is a step toward liberation, revealing that freedom was never outside us, but waiting to be remembered.